Show yourself some LOVE <3

Love looks not with the eyes,

But with the mind; and therefore

Is winged Cupid painted blind.

-William Shakespeare

Happy February everyone!

Hopefully all of you are still charging forward into 2019. February has long been known for two things.

1) The month a lot of people give up on their resolutions made the previous month.

2) Valentines Day

Both can be stressful! I’ve been thinking about this a lot since I made a pretty big goal for myself this year. But also because this is supposed to be the month of Loooove.. ( I hope you read that the way I intended) :) I mean if you think about it we spend so much time thinking about what we want to change about ourselves, whether physically, financially, or personally. All with the idea that we will be better tomorrow than we are today. I’m not saying that’s necessarily a bad thing, but what about our today selves?

-Take the time to stop and smell the roses-

I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, who is single. She was telling me that Valentines Day always makes her anxious because she doesn’t have a date. She then made a statement that made me question how we treat ourselves. Yes OURSELVES.

My friend said to me “you know if I felt better about myself, I’d probably have somebody in my life” when I asked her what she meant, she explained that she wanted to be more fit, wanted to be further in her career that she was, and overall felt like she was stagnant. We talked more and overall she just felt BLAH! She explained she feels like she’s not ready to put herself out there yet. Not until she feels better about herself.

I jokingly said to her, “why don’t you take yourself out on a date?” She looked at me as if I had just then decided to start talking to her in an unknown language. Truth be told I didn’t really expect my remark to be taken seriously, but she processed the idea and said “you know what? I am going to do it! I’m going to get all dressed up and take myself out!”

I went home that night and thought about this conversation over and over. Why do we forget about ourselves? Why do we work so hard to please other people, and lose sight of our own self- love? Why do we base our opinions of ourselves on the opinions of others? We give so much of ourselves to our families, friends, jobs, and communities, but what do we give to ourselves? Why do we let our future self stop us from enjoying today?

I think it’s important to find something that makes you happy that is just for YOU!

I recently started painting. Not because I ever desire to have my art showing in a gallery, or because I have a natural talent. I do it because it makes me happy. It’s something that helps me release stress, and allows me to be creative.

Take some time and think about something you’ve always wanted to do. It could be learning to kayak, go hiking, take an art class, or even just taking time for a pedicure. Whatever it is, will it bring you peace? Or allow you to discover a part of you that’s perhaps always buried? My friend decided to take herself out, because she’s a social person and enjoys being around people, but has neglected that due to her insecurities. But if we don’t get out of our own heads we may miss out on the best experiences of our life!

I encourage all of you to find a way to give yourself some love. Something that is for you and only you. If others benefit from it, then wonderful. Just make sure your doing it just for yourself. A so called date night. Let’s give ourselves more love, and fill our own cups.

Life goes by so fast, don’t wait to enjoy tomorrow, start loving today.

Ashley

Posted on February 1, 2019 .